My wonderful husband not only does not raise his voice anymore, he doesn't even throw a firm tone in there. I explained to him that Dad's "firm tones" were a prelude to a tantrum, just as a pin being pulled on a hand grenade should warn anyone in the area that an explosion was imminent. My husband is a very articulate man, and knows the language well enough not to need to use intimidation tactics such as raising his voice, or using intimidating tones. So too is my father, and so are a lot of other people. Sadly, the world still yells.